Missing the point?

October 22, 2010

Help in identifying-spiritual-abuse –

“First, abusive churches have a control-oriented style of leadership.

Second, the leaders of such churches often use manipulation to gain complete submission from their members.

Third, there is a rigid, legalistic lifestyle involving numerous requirements and minute details for daily life.

Fourth, these churches tend to change their names often, especially once they are exposed by the media.

Fifth, denouncing other churches is common because they see themselves as superior to all other churches.

Sixth, these churches have a persecution complex and view themselves as being persecuted by the world, the media, and other Christian churches. Seventh, abusive churches specifically target young adults between eighteen and twenty-five years of age.

The eighth mark of abusive churches is the great difficulty members have in getting out of or leaving these churches, a process often marked by social, psychological, or emotional pain.”

Abusive churches do not hesitate to kick out or to divorce people who do not go along with them

The Watchman Fellowship has identified five hallmarks of abusive religious systems. They are:

– Authoritarian: unconditional submission to leaders is expected.

– Averse to criticism: the person who dissents becomes the problem rather than the issue being raised.

– Image conscious: protecting the reputation of the leaders or church is more important than truth or justice.

– Perfectionistic: individual worth is determined by performance; there is no compassion for weakness or failure.

– Unbalanced: they will try to distinguish themselves from other groups by putting excessive emphasis on some minor point of theology.

Wikipedia notes that spiritual abuse “includes any of the following”:

– Psychological and emotional abuse

– Any act by deeds or words that demean, humiliate or shame the natural worth and dignity of a person as a human being

– Submission to spiritual authority without any right to disagree; intimidation

– Unreasonable control of a person’s basic right to make a choice on spiritual matters

– False accusation and repeated criticism by negatively labeling a person as disobedient, rebellious, lacking faith, demonized, apostate, enemy of the church or God

– Prevention from practicing faith

– Isolation or separation from family and friends due to religious affiliation

– Physical abuse that includes physical injury, deprivation of sustenance, and sexual abuse

– Exclusivity; dismissal of an outsider’s criticism and labeling an outsider as of the devil

– Withholding information and giving of information only to a selected few

– Conformity to a dangerous or unnatural religious view and practice

– Hostility that includes shunning (relational aggression, parental alienation) and persecution

http://hevencense.wordpress.com/church-abuse/

I TOO still would rightfully rather see pastor first live a sermon instead of too often now merely preach it to others and I really do think it is so farcical how some sinfully, proud evangelical pastors are ready to condemn others, to gossip about, to now preach about the other person’s sins but someone how they can’t seem to deal with their own false abuse of others, their own sins, and their own false pride..

http://postedat.wordpress.com/2009/08/31/get-real-now/

(Prov 27:2 KJV) Let another man praise thee, and not thine own mouth; a stranger, and not thine own lips.

(1 Cor 14:33 KJV) For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.

(James 3:16 KJV) For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.

http://postedat.wordpress.com/2009/08/23/to-the-bad-preacher/

Verbal abuse is always unacceptable too. So are the Bullies

WELCOME TO THE VERBAL ABUSE SITE http://www.verbalabuse.com/

Jesus helps us to recover even from the bad Church abuses, bad pastors too..

see also http://postedat.wordpress.com/2011/10/03/dispensationalists-plymouth-brethren/

… You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free..

 

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