Missing the point?

July 17, 2009

Friendship

 
 
WE ALL HAVE CERTAIN BASIC NEEDS that do need to be met…
 
Including food, clothing, shelter, activity, exercise, friendships, medical services… (Mat 6:28 KJV)  And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin: (Luke 12:24 KJV)  Consider the ravens: for they neither sow nor reap; which neither have storehouse nor barn; and God feedeth them: how much more are ye better than the fowls? (Luke 12:27 KJV)  Consider the lilies how they grow: they toil not, they spin not; and yet I say unto you, that Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.  (2 Tim 2:7 KJV)  Consider what I say; and the Lord give thee understanding in all things.  (Heb 10:24 KJV)  And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works:  (Heb 12:3 KJV)  For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds.
 
Now as I was praying for some of my own personal needs to be met God next had replied “I have provided everything you need right where you live”. So I opened my eyes to what God has provided and made use of them.
 
  (Psa 37:23 KJV)  The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way.
24  Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down: for the LORD upholdeth him with his hand.
25  I have been young, and now am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread.
26  He is ever merciful, and lendeth; and his seed is blessed.
27  Depart from evil, and do good; and dwell for evermore.
28  For the LORD loveth judgment, and forsaketh not his saints; they are preserved for ever: but the seed of the wicked shall be cut off.
29  The righteous shall inherit the land, and dwell therein for ever.
30  The mouth of the righteous speaketh wisdom, and his tongue talketh of judgment.
31  The law of his God is in his heart; none of his steps shall slide.
32  The wicked watcheth the righteous, and seeketh to slay him.
33  The LORD will not leave him in his hand, nor condemn him when he is judged.
34  Wait on the LORD, and keep his way, and he shall exalt thee to inherit the land:
 
BEING A GOOD FRIEND AND HAVING ALSO A GOOD FRIEND ARE ESSENTIAL NEEDS IN OUR EARTHLY  LIFE. Getting merely more money is a very poor substitute for friends too.
 
MANY SINGLE AND MARRIED PERSONS ARE DISSATISFIED WITH THEIR LIFE, RELATIONSHIPS, AND THEY OFTEN DO COMPLAIN ABOUT HOW THEY ARE BEING TREATED BADLY BY OTHERS. AND I HAVE FOUND IT VERY HELPFUL TO ASK THEM TO ANSWER THIS QUESTION FIRST ” DO OTHER PEOPLE GENERALLY TREAT YOU NOW THEY WAY YOU DO TREAT GOD? AND HOW DO YOU REALLY TREAT GOD, IGNORE HIM, AVOID HIM, ARE INDIFFERENT TO HIM?”
 
And yes there are also  bad people in the world, bad friends, people who merely try to abuse us, rib bad steal from us to try to fulfill only their own needs, will, wants ,desires.. People who oppress us, slander us, lie to us as well. Such people will tend to do us no good and we need to stop wasting our rime and not associated with them anymore and replace them with good people.
 
(2 Cor 1:4 KJV)  Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God. 5  For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation also aboundeth by Christ.
 
When trying to help others I do always try to speak first from my own valid, real past personal experiences. I try to put myself in the other persons shoes, but often even I have been there even years before them,  and I try to adequately relate to their needs from my own past similar experiences what I have learned.  I try to to also give them  Biblical, and GODLY solutions. Now  even my own life, experiences I have wasted much time, effort tying to help other persons by mere;y listening, talking to them, counseling them, for it is only when I do add the word of God, when  I do rightfully do refer them to God,  who has the sole real solutions even in helping them with all of their problems, do I next see immediate, valid results in my helping them. Many persons do have unrepentant sins, poor values, errors in their ways, even unresolved personal needs in their own  lives even cause they do personally have also their bad parental and/or upbringing, cultural hang ups, and they here are encouraged by the devil and others to continue do this. They do wrongfully  follow their false upbringing, the false cultural traditions and  they thus are easily predictable now, next in their subsequent still bad behaviors here too. That even includes the area of “friendship”. Do they even falsely accept still everyone as a friend that comes along and listen to them as well? Or can they stand on their own two feet and make proper, valid value judgments? Some people foolishly try to deny they can be understood, seen for what they really are still too. They are even  still lost, confused on the road of life.
 
(2 Cor 3:2 KJV)  Ye are our epistle written in our hearts, known and read of all men: 3  Forasmuch as ye are manifestly declared to be the epistle of Christ ministered by us, written not with ink, but with the Spirit of the living God; not in tables of stone, but in fleshly tables of the heart.
 
Let us get a straight,  good understanding, a good path and let us really Look first at what the Bible also says about true and good friendships here with me now. It is important to do so as well now.
 
(James 2:23 KJV)  And the scripture was fulfilled which saith, Abraham believed God, and it was imputed unto him for righteousness: and he was called the Friend of God.
 
(John 13:35 KJV)  By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another. 36  Simon Peter said unto him, Lord, whither goest thou? Jesus answered him, Whither I go, thou canst not follow me now; but thou shalt follow me afterwards. 37  Peter said unto him, Lord, why cannot I follow thee now? I will lay down my life for thy sake. 38  Jesus answered him, Wilt thou lay down thy life for my sake? Verily, verily, I say unto thee, The cock shall not crow, till thou hast denied me thrice.
 
(Luke 11:5 KJV)  And he said unto them, Which of you shall have a friend, and shall go unto him at midnight, and say unto him, Friend, lend me three loaves; 6 For a friend of mine in his journey is come to me, and I have nothing to set before him? 7  And he from within shall answer and say, Trouble me not: the door is now shut, and my children are with me in bed; I cannot rise and give thee.  18  I say unto you, Though he will not rise and give him, because he is his friend, yet because of his importunity he will rise and give him as many as he needeth.
 
One’s True love and true friendship are also evident not in mere words but by one’s real, daily personal acts.
 
(John 11:11 KJV)  These things said he: and after that he saith unto them, Our friend Lazarus sleepeth; but I go, that I may awake him out of sleep.
 
(John 15:13 KJV)  Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends
 
(John 15:15 KJV)  Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.
 
(Acts 10:24 KJV)  And the morrow after they entered into Caesarea. And Cornelius waited for them, and had called together his kinsmen and near friends.
 
(Luke 15:9 KJV)  And when she hath found it, she calleth her friends and her neighbours together, saying, Rejoice with me; for I have found the piece which I had lost.
 
(Mark 5:19 KJV)  Howbeit Jesus suffered him not, but saith unto him, Go home to thy friends, and tell them how great things the Lord hath done for thee, and hath had compassion on thee.
 
(Luke 12:4 KJV)  And I say unto you my friends, Be not afraid of them that kill the body, and after that have no more that they can do.
 
(John 15:14 KJV)  Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you.
 
(Acts 19:31 KJV)  And certain of the chief of Asia, which were his friends, sent unto him, desiring him that he would not adventure himself into the theatre.
 
(Mark 3:21 KJV)  And when his friends heard of it, they went out to lay hold on him: for they said, He is beside himself.
 
(Mat 22:12 KJV)  And he saith unto him, Friend, how camest thou in hither not having a wedding garment? And he was speechless.
 
(John 19:12 KJV)  And from thenceforth Pilate sought to release him: but the Jews cried out, saying, If thou let this man go, thou art not Caesar’s friend: whosoever maketh himself a king speaketh against Caesar.
 
(Luke 14:10 KJV)  But when thou art bidden, go and sit down in the lowest room; that when he that bade thee cometh, he may say unto thee, Friend, go up higher: then shalt thou have worship in the presence of them that sit at meat with thee.
 
(John 3:29 KJV)  He that hath the bride is the bridegroom: but the friend of the bridegroom, which standeth and heareth him, rejoiceth greatly because of the bridegroom’s voice: this my joy therefore is fulfilled.
 
(Acts 27:3 KJV)  And the next day we touched at Sidon. And Julius courteously entreated Paul, and gave him liberty to go unto his friends to refresh himself.
 
(Luke 15:29 KJV)  And he answering said to his father, Lo, these many years do I serve thee, neither transgressed I at any time thy commandment: and yet thou never gavest me a kid, that I might make merry with my friends:
 
(Luke 7:6 KJV)  Then Jesus went with them. And when he was now not far from the house, the centurion sent friends to him, saying unto him, Lord, trouble not thyself: for I am not worthy that thou shouldest enter under my roof:
 
(Luke 23:12 KJV)  And the same day Pilate and Herod were made friends together: for before they were at enmity between themselves.
 
(Luke 14:12 KJV)  Then said he also to him that bade him, When thou makest a dinner or a supper, call not thy friends, nor thy brethren, neither thy kinsmen, nor thy rich neighbours; lest they also bid thee again, and a recompense be made thee.
 
(Luke 16:9 KJV)  And I say unto you, Make to yourselves friends of the mammon of unrighteousness; that, when ye fail, they may receive you into everlasting habitations.
 
(Mat 20:13 KJV)  But he answered one of them, and said, Friend, I do thee no wrong: didst not thou agree with me for a penny?
 
(3 John 1:14 KJV)  But I trust I shall shortly see thee, and we shall speak face to face. Peace be to thee. Our friends salute thee. Greet the friends by name.
 
There you now do have it, almost every New Testament verse on friendships.. but now what does it really all mean now to us? Reread these verses and note the term friends..
 
“It is always nice to talk to you and to also hear from you as well”.   Many persons firstly do not understand that when we do love someone we openly talk to them. The opposite is also true when we hate someone we tend not to talk to them. Want to know if you really love or hate someone? How often do you talk to them? And how often do you talk to God now as well? People often do say that  the greatest need on earth is the need for more communication, more openly talking to each other.  In reality the greatest need is first for each one of us to have God’s forgiveness and love, and to practise more love for God, as well as more love for ourselves and next real love for the others firstly. When we really do love someone we tend to talk even more to them, and  yes we still tend not to talk to those whom we do not love. The more silent persons   often do tend now not to be the loving kind of a person, but self centered, greedy, introvert. And what are you like? It is never too late to change now too for the better. (Prov 27:5 KJV) Open rebuke is better than secret love. (Prov 27:6 KJV) Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.

I too can tell if someone loves me, for they do also now want to often to talk to me. I can also tell when they stop loving me.. they stop talking to me.. and they do also treat God, Jesus the same way.. they also do not talk next  to Him cause they no longer love Him now too.  (Rev 2:4 KJV)  Nevertheless I have somewhat against thee, because thou hast left thy first love. 5  Remember therefore from whence thou art fallen, and repent, and do the first works; or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will remove thy candlestick out of his place, except thou repent.

(Prov 27:8 KJV) As a bird that wandereth from her nest, so is a man that wandereth from his place.

“You notice I do talk to you often, and in full love,  and I love you at where  you are”.. because that is how God now loves me. He God also has the time to talk to me, to love me as well.  Because God He loves me, I do thus love you, others and I am also try to be yours and their good friend as well. So do I also now love others also because I do love to love others. So should we all now too. Start talking also to God today. Pick up the phone, the Bible as well and listen to him.

(1 John 4:19 KJV)  We love him, because he first loved us. 20   If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen? 21 And this commandment have we from him, That he who loveth God love his brother also.

(Ruth 2:13 KJV) Then she said, Let me find favour in thy sight, my lord; for that thou hast comforted me, and for that thou hast spoken friendly unto thine handmaid, though I be not like unto one of thine handmaidens.

(Prov 18:24 KJV) A man that hath friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

Speaking of being a good friend with God too, my past devotional messages to some persons are a little  blunt, but they are simple saying that  God wants us all to be mostly firstly in the Word of God itself, and not in the bad books, and/in in the bad literature, bad useless, wasteful medias too, and He God also does not want us following after the rather bad pastors. after the bad persons or following after the world, the flesh, the devil.  Sadly there are too many of bad persons  even in the evangelical Ministry, Churches today who basically, really are imposters who do not follow God with their whole heart as God demands they do as well now. Are you different from them now? or going to be different? Be in God’s words as well daily.
 
I myself  do have to walk also with God all day,  to be able to hear his sweet words,  and to write his truths to you , all of you too.  I like you cannot be worldly, walk in the world and then next sit and talk easily to God and write his truths. (Mat 6:24 KJV)  No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.  Chose who you want as a feeing God or the world? Truly You also cannot love the World and God.
 
(John 6:63 KJV)  It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life.
 
(1 Cor 13:3 KJV)  And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity (the love of God), it profiteth me nothing.
 
(1 Tim 4:8 KJV)  For bodily exercise profiteth little: but godliness is profitable unto all things, having promise of the life that now is, and of that which is to come.
 
(1 Cor 16:22 KJV)  If any man love not the Lord Jesus Christ, let him be Anathema Maranatha.
 
(1 John 2:15 KJV)  Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
 
The World, the flesh and devil here on earth also always do work to distract us from the more important things that we should be doing now, the good things we should follow, such as even  being personally kind, loving to others, and our own real need to continue to follow solely after God and not mere man.. Otherwise we wiki never find true love, true happiness, true fulfillment as well.  He the devil often as well sends to us daily even non Christians,  bad  persons, the so called friends  to try to distract us too from where we should be, from what we should be lie and doing.. and are you on guard for this too, aware of this? and this has been still my latest prayerful personal concerns for myself as well as you. To follow after God, his truth, and not the world and the devils bad ways, lies.  
 
God does have  a very specific daily will and plan for our life, and the devil will try both to detract us from that will, or try to depress us, so that we will not want to do God’s will even by means of evil spirit and the bad persons too.  And God’s will also includes under God’s leading  finding one of God’s lost sheep, and helping also the other lost one by all of the valid means too.

Distraction or depression  are now very sinful, and  lead to more unnecessary big problems in many of  our lives.  Many true, good prophets have also felt depressed, all alone, ironically even at the peak of their careers, and felt a lack of adequate relationships with God and men, and do also note this much of this was due to the demonic harassment.   We thus are distracted not only with God, distracted in  our need of the personal reading the Bible in the morning,  in our continual  praying  but now are also distracted in our doing  many  other things, such as work, studies etc., And  we can supposedly be falsely depressed with God for not being our true friend in all of this as well? Or are we rather the ones not his true and faithful friends in reality firstly too?

Heavenly Father I pray in Jesus name that you would now reduce, remove from us, and from our loved ones, all of those evil and distracting spirits, the birds of the air, that do come along and do steal the good seeds, good things that  that God has already sent to us.

(Mat 13:3 KJV)  And he spake many things unto them in parables, saying, Behold, a sower went forth to sow; 4 And when he sowed, some seeds fell by the way side, and the fowls came and devoured them up:

(Mat 8:21 KJV)  And another of his disciples said unto him, Lord, suffer me first to go and bury my father. 22   But Jesus said unto him, Follow me; and let the dead bury their dead.

Yes  sometimes our too easily being distracted can also be a symptom of another major unfulfilled need of ours. a sign of our own basic loneliness still, the root, basic cause of our  real depression underneath? For when our basic valid needs are not being met we all still do  tend next too easily to divert our present tasks and tend to wander and search rather for their fulfillment, often not knowing even what that unfulfilled need is.  We still have not only a God shaped vacuum and  may  still may really need  a really good earthly friend?  I again do use the term good friend first..  for as we all do need to be aware there are really are bad friends too.

There are various types of friends and even various levels of friendships supposedly too?

(Mat 7:15 KJV)  Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves.

Our body is physical and it is also spiritual.. and we all do need to first to talk to God in heaven, our creator too,  but we also do  want some human persons to talk to next too.. we want to also be appreciated and loved in Heaven but also now here on earth.. Truly though we really cannot have one without the other.

A good friend is like a good brother, like a good sister, where you don’t have to even talk to them in full, they do really know  you, and they really do appreciate you.. even like the past friendship of David and Jonathan that they had  with each other.  (1 Sam 18:3 KJV)  Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul.

King David he also had liked and appreciated good personal relationships too. Good friend are  closer than a brother or a sister,  or as good as one.. but do also note that God still even here seems to give and take away our friends now as well.. and we have to learn to accept it as His will too. (2 Sam 21:14 KJV)  And the bones of Saul and Jonathan his son buried they in the country of Benjamin in Zelah, in the sepulchre of Kish his father: and they performed all that the king commanded. And after that God was entreated for the land.

 It is great  when God sends to us a close friend, a good friend, and is often sad, sad when God next also takes them away. I too now have had many friends and lost many too, and so did King David. Even the disciples themselves had lost Jesus temporarily as their friend and they next became really depressed rightfully about it too. 

 

Note we all do get abused too.. see http://postedat.wordpress.com/2009/07/16/abused/   One of the thing that bothers me about allowing someone to walk over me, to verbally abuse me, is where do I draw the line next, put a stop to it.. so I tend to stop it as soon as I see it instead…not a door mat to walk over.. one of the best ways is to have nothing to do with the abuser anymore.. God does not want you to remain in an abusive marriage… nor in an abusive church, or with an abusive pastor as well.. In the first week I was in a new church I immediately saw that the pastor himself was an abusive, control freak pastor and I did not remain there too long.. I have seen a whole city of proud, abusive pastors, who felt that they could not be touched, till I had arrived at God’s request.. Once publically exposed next even the government acted quickly to pull their tax free status, stopped their right to issue donations receipts and the door of the worst church now was closed forever.. all of the pastors were laid off too.. Public exposure and exemplary prosecution of the unrepentant guilty persons serves everyone’s best interest.. “Those whom I love I chasten and rebuke as well”  God does not want you to remain in an abusive marriage… and God will make the door at the right time for you to leave it as well.. trust Him.

  

 But no, no close friend can ever compare to the Lord Jesus Christ himself. Not one here on earth too.. NOT EVEN YOUR SPOUSE, BEST EARTHLY FRIEND.

(John 15:5 KJV)  I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing. 6 If a man abide not in me, he is cast forth as a branch, and is withered; and men gather them, and cast them into the fire, and they are burned.  (John 15:16 KJV)  Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you, and ordained you, that ye should go and bring forth fruit, and that your fruit should remain: that whatsoever ye shall ask of the Father in my name, he may give it you.

God ALWAYS wants to fellowship with us, but we still do have to personally allow it, exercise our own free will in this matter as well.

(John 10:27 KJV)  My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me: 28 And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand. 29  My Father, which gave them me, is greater than all; and no man is able to pluck them out of my Father’s hand. 30 I and my Father are one.

Jesus always still wants to be our closest friend, and He does want  to be our friend, to talk with us, and for us also  to talk with Him firstly as well,  and also next to talk in love with the other genuine, good  believers.  

(Luke 6:33 KJV)  And if ye do good to them which do good to you, what thank have ye? for sinners also do even the same. 34  And if ye lend to them of whom ye hope to receive, what thank have ye? for sinners also lend to sinners, to receive as much again. 35  But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil.

(Gal 6:10 KJV)  As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith.

(Eph 5:11 KJV)  And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.

Sadly some Pastors, Elders, deacons,  Christians are also still friends wrongfully with the bad persons. This itself is unacceptable to God. I have also too often been stabbed in the back  even by bad Pastors that I had even myself considered as being one of my best friends too. They were unloyal and really bad friends rather too. Jesus himself was betrayed by Apostle Judas .But Jesus he still knew from the beginning he was not a good friend .

(Mat 7:16 KJV)  Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles? 17  Even so every good tree bringeth forth good fruit; but a corrupt tree bringeth forth evil fruit. 18  A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit. 19  Every tree that bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire. 20  Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them. 21  Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. 22  Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? 23  And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity. 24  Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock:

Assuredly, I say to you, inasmuch as you did it to one of the least of these  My brethren, you did it to Me.” (Matt 25:40)

Good friends will treat you differently from the bad friends.

(Ruth 2:13 KJV)  Then she said, Let me find favour in thy sight, my lord; for that thou hast comforted me, and for that thou hast spoken friendly unto thine handmaid, though I be not like unto one of thine handmaidens.

(Prov 18:24 KJV)  A man that hath friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

The very first Church that I had joined as an adult, had become a member of, the Church Pastor there  said to me personally that he extended the right hand of fellowship unto me. I assumed rightfully he meant that would be a Christian brother, a Christian friend to me. I next asked him openly what he meant by that expression. He the pastor next said to me that he did not know what it meant. Wow he had lied to me with his cheap  words. To him in reality  I was to his friend only if I helped him to get what he wanted and that so often seems to be the case with the too many bad pastors even now that I have encountered… and I have had encountered many such bad pastoral friends.. persons that are not a godly friendship nor still is this wrong behavior of theirs an acceptable Christianity. 

Coming back to good Friendship..

It is also great to work for the Lord but it is also great to have good close Christian friends, and not to solely have some local   friends too.. there clearly is a difference between a real Christian and a non Christian person.  You should also by now know that sex outside of marriage and supposedly real love are  not the same thing.. so as well good and bad friends are not the same thing.  Sadly some bad people still cannot really still love others.  The Church also is is not a building, it is not merely a community of people, a social club of peers,  that has become also now a fundamental foundation of the denomination next. A community of people can be made up of communistic persons  or capitalist persons even made up of of non Christ like persons as well.. and that itself is not enough, nor is it a church.

You also do need to meet people who can love you, can manifest real love, and you can love them and that is what a good church is, not just another meeting of supposedly Christian believers, and not merely a Church building, for  the true  church  it is to be  a real place of persons really showing love one to another.  

I now have had friends like that in my church . They were, are really are loving, generous people. I had good brotherly Christian friends in university and  in IVCF where  If I had said let us go to the chapel cause I do need to pray about my needs.. they gladly next went with me to pray.. no questions were even asked why as well. They were good, true Christian friends.. friends who really loved me. I have had good Christian friends at my secular jobs as well.  I have often prayed that the people at my work would also become my best Christian friends, and next it often happened too. I also helped to make the persons into real Christians often at work and some of them became really great Christian friends, at least for for a while till they had moved elsewhere.

When God called me to be a direct shepherd and I got my first  flock  I was really really surprised now that I loved everyone in my church equally, even all persons at the supposed different age levels I still could love all of them  and relate to them equally, without partiality too, and they now also knew it.  I loved them all as God loves us all, individually, equally, and it was great for both  of us too

Take for example the shape of the Cross.. it has a horizontal and a vertical dimensions and it shows to me the different levels of friendships that we seem to have theses days too. Friendship with God and others, friendship with peers, and others.  The prophets for example personally  also can like to be with other prophets, their equals, but they also like to be with the Pastors, their subordinated, and with the Apostles their superiors, as well as with many other persons. They the prophets tend to have earthly Christian fellowship at 4 levels at least to start off with but the friendship  is still all in true Christian love at all levels too.   With some people you are at a heavenly level, with some others more at an earthly level, and with others at an equal level.. for you do not have the same level of relationship with everyone and you thus cannot of course but you do show them the same love.

Being friendly and being a friend is not the same  thing. I have had often relationships with various different people I do not know and some of them become instant close friends with me from day one day, by God’s direction, and we loved to talk together about the Lord too.  While other persons sadly  could never be counted to be any kind of a close, true, real friend but I show them all the same love of God. God also want us to really now love others, and not just be friendly..

I  also do like it when people show love beyond words as well.. even such as when a good friend takes me out for a great free dinner or we go on a trip together. I am blessed by his dinner offer but also now more by his real love. I really really loved to go out and eat with my good friends,  to take them also to my favorite eating palaces too.  Jesus often, often ate with his friends.  I do myself do buy even food for them, or take them to the restaurant  or go with them to clean movies, or take them for car rides too  I also go for a walk with my friends, work with them, and visit them at their home. Many people are often surprised when I offer to go with them, walk with them anywhere.. they  do thus realize it is me showing God’s love to them.. Some people still have never known, seen God’s love sadly as well.

(Luke 24:13 KJV)  And, behold, two of them went that same day to a village called Emmaus, which was from Jerusalem about threescore furlongs.14  And they talked together of all these things which had happened. 15  And it came to pass, that, while they communed together and reasoned, Jesus himself drew near, and went with them. 16  But their eyes were holden that they should not know him. 17  And he said unto them, What manner of communications are these that ye have one to another, as ye walk, and are sad? 18  And the one of them, whose name was Cleopas, answering said unto him, Art thou only a stranger in Jerusalem, and hast not known the things which are come to pass there in these days? 19  And he said unto them, What things? And they said unto him, Concerning Jesus of Nazareth, which was a prophet mighty in deed and word before God and all the people: 20  And how the chief priests and our rulers delivered him to be condemned to death, and have crucified him. 21  But we trusted that it had been he which should have redeemed Israel: and beside all this, to day is the third day since these things were done. 22  Yea, and certain women also of our company made us astonished, which were early at the sepulchre; 23  And when they found not his body, they came, saying, that they had also seen a vision of angels, which said that he was alive. 24  And certain of them which were with us went to the sepulchre, and found it even so as the women had said: but him they saw not. 25  Then he said unto them, O fools, and slow of heart to believe all that the prophets have spoken: 26  Ought not Christ to have suffered these things, and to enter into his glory? 27  And beginning at Moses and all the prophets, he expounded unto them in all the scriptures the things concerning himself. 28  And they drew nigh unto the village, whither they went: and he made as though he would have gone further. 29  But they constrained him, saying, Abide with us: for it is toward evening, and the day is far spent. And he went in to tarry with them. 30  And it came to pass, as he sat at meat with them, he took bread, and blessed it, and brake, and gave to them. 31  And their eyes were opened, and they knew him; and he vanished out of their sight. 32  And they said one to another, Did not our heart burn within us, while he talked with us by the way, and while he opened to us the scriptures?

Each one of us do need now close good personal relationship in our life, but not always full time but occasionally at least, and I do still will even rightfully  to let God work it all out. Talking openly with someone and them  letting  you to talk openly is refreshing.. it is real love..  We all mostly  do not have really good friends for we seem to rather have too often mostly familiar persons and not true, good Christian friends. Try to be the kind of friend you want others to be for you as well.

A definition of a good friend is someone who you can ask him or her to do something with or for you,  and he or she  does not even hesitate, nor does she  or he ask what is in it for me? they are unselfish, they do what was asked of them immediately  too. Jesus himself is such a good  friend, He will do what we asks if it is in the will of God , and He asks nothing in return cause he did it for us. He expects us to do what he asks as well..

I  met a person on the street for the first time, I next talked to him for two hours, and now we even do often as well write to each other.  There was an immediate relationship. It was God ordained.. and it went along with my normal activity. God had wanted me to show him love, to also help him with his real business problems  too. God firstly always still has to make that good and true friend come to life. Choosing who we want as our friends tends to be a bad approach.

With real good Christian friends no time  is really needed  to start the friendship   for love and friendship  is a choice of our own will and it it can be  an immediate friendships where we merely chose to love them and they chose to love me, or you..  but sadly also they can chose not to love me or you as I can chose not to love them wrongfully too…   Many people are friendly.. but they still really do not love you, they do rather  treat you as a stranger, and not as a daughter, as a  sister.. and even in the Church sadly, unacceptably.

A good friend loves us at all times too. They talk to us, listen to us, help us at all times. Compare this to the so called friends who really are just undesirable bad friends, bad persons. Very few people  around us do now want to even  love you and me, do want to understand you and me..for  they are still in reality mainly selfish, living in sin.. and also do believe me when I say that loads of people when I got to really know them I next had  wished that I never had met them too. Most people do not want even any more friends, they  supposedly have enough, they selfish care only about their own family members,  or they have their own agendas first to be carried out…. and thus we may have to find someone who needs a friend but we  also do need to be personally willing to be that friend to them.. and to do the associated work in our friendship too. To next also to be personally in their homes.  

(Prov 14:20 KJV)  The poor is hated even of his own neighbour: but the rich hath many friends. (Prov 19:4 KJV)  Wealth maketh many friends; but the poor is separated from his neighbour.  (Prov 19:7 KJV)  All the brethren of the poor do hate him: how much more do his friends go far from him? he pursueth them with words, yet they are wanting to him.

There is a great personal difference in our own life when other people do start to love us,  when they do tell us they love us.. even persons starting from ages 1 to 90  or more.. I have had many people unexpectedly love and accept me immediately.. many many times.. and it was not cause I was  friendly..  but rather cause they themselves were really loving persons.  A really  good Christian friend is actually a replacement for a father, mother, brother, sister, it is an immediate and a close relationship.. You and I need a good God given friend in our lives because that is what God wants for you too.. that friend firstly is Jesus.. but do you also do what he asks of you? and I also do  like have good friends, good food, good clothes, etc.,  good and not the bad rather.. 

 Not all people are loving.. they chose not to love sadly as well.  I still cannot fully even understand why they all had chose this sad life.. it was their wrong choice to do so.. life is what we choose it to be.. I chose Jesus, Joy, Happiness.. so I now I do have it too. People do make the wrong and  bad choices even  for selfish reasons. Other people do make the good, right choices. Many of my recent devotions end with the rightful thought, I chose to serve, praise the lord, to follow him.. God respects our free will choice. Make the right choices. Have Jesus as your best friend too.

It is also for me still immoral and very wrong that many pastors do not make home visits. Jesus loved to be in his friends  homes too.  (Luke 19:5 KJV)  And when Jesus came to the place, he looked up, and saw him, and said unto him, Zacchaeus, make haste, and come down; for to day I must abide at thy house. 6  And he made haste, and came down, and received him joyfully.

(Psa 119:61 KJV) The bands of the wicked have robbed me: but I have not forgotten thy law. 62  At midnight I will rise to give thanks unto thee because of thy righteous judgments. 63  I am a companion of all them that fear thee, and of them that keep thy precepts.

and all that  is my choice

 Some would agree and say “I need to love others more, that’s definitely something I need to learn.” While some persons still do nor know what he or she really is looking for too.. even to love others and to be loved too..

Some persons would say ” Yes, I have lots of friends who have done that for me.  I really feel blessed for them, considering I seldom return the favour, I think that area of me needs some work on some more”or rather firstly may God give you the money  and the love to do it as well.”. It may not be just the gift of  generosity that you need but the will to say I will to do it.. to Say Lord I will do it, be a friend to you and your people too and  help me to do it.. (Gal 6:7 KJV) : for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. I too have to make an effort to be friendly, to stop working on the computer to answer the door and say hello to a friend. I tell myself when I do it is is worth it for me too — sometimes I do have to overcome my desire to be by myself, and actually go and meet others

 Like I said before I want God to arrange the good friend(s) for you always.   I do  like it better that God selects and makes the friends I should have for me..  I know that you have your own agenda for life.. but God has his own too.. he God has to work it out

There is a time for everything  (Eccl 3:1 KJV) To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: 2 A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;3  A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;4  A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; 5  A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; 6  A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; 7 A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; 8 A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.

A time to love.. and a time to be loved… and a time of peace.. quietness.. goodness..

All to Jesus I surrender, all to Him I really Give… All… all my thoughts, all of my will, all of my goals, inclinations, desires too, was my last devotion too.. but  also (Eccl 4:9 KJV) Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. and that speaks to me of a good friend  and (Eccl 2:24 KJV) There is nothing better for a man, than that he should eat and drink, and that he should make his soul enjoy good in his labour. This also I saw, that it was from the hand of God.

And that includes eating with our good friends, and we can all undo bad habits by being nice in the future, we can learn to do good from our mistakes and should.

It is best that we let God do it all . Do let God lead you there..  Do first Pray he will arrange for you to have good Christian friends and it often comes from  unexpected places and in God’s timing too. Friendship is more about work than emotions, or feeling good as well. When we really do love someone and really show it, manifest it with good works we will next feel good about ourselves and about the the other person as well.

(James 1:23 KJV)  For if any be a hearer of the word, and not a doer, he is like unto a man beholding his natural face in a glass: 24  For he beholdeth himself, and goeth his way, and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was. 25  But whoso looketh into the perfect law of liberty, and continueth therein, he being not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, this man shall be blessed in his deed. 26  If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man’s religion is vain. 27 Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world. 2:1    My brethren, have not the faith of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Lord of glory, with respect of persons. 2   For if there come unto your assembly a man with a gold ring, in goodly apparel, and there come in also a poor man in vile raiment; 3  And ye have respect to him that weareth the gay clothing, and say unto him, Sit thou here in a good place; and say to the poor, Stand thou there, or sit here under my footstool: 4   Are ye not then partial in yourselves, and are become judges of evil thoughts?

(Prov 17:17 KJV)  A friend loveth at all times,  (Prov 18:24 KJV)  A man that hath friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.(Prov 27:6 KJV)  Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.

 Heavenly Father I pray first that You become our close friend and that you will talk to us in love.. let us also know how much we are loved by you, even by others,  appreciated by you first,.. let us  also rejoice in all of this.. and nothing, nothing makes us more happy than being happy with you, in talking with you.  Nothing.  I pray also that great things will happen today, now , this week, this month, this year for you as well, for you too and I would like you also to have a  good, even a new, new real Christian caring friendship  group where your faith can grow more too,  where your faith can thus even grow some more too.

 I want you to love others, and to beloved by others too.. you and I do deserve it.

In my lifetime I have heard many many lazy persons complain that they had no  good friends, because real friendships means doing also some real hard work.. something they immorally did not want to do still.. Friendship with God involves work and personal sacrifices as well now.  Jesus used to visit  the people’s  homes for this reason. and I also did as a pastor..  Jesus loved Mary, Martha, Lazarus, but he also loved to be in their home too..  I often went to the person’s homes  just to love people in their homes even without preaching anything too.. even just to be a father, a brother for them.

You really, really still cannot be a friend with an Unchrist like  person.

(James 4:4 KJV)  Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.
 
(Mat 26:47 KJV)  And while he yet spake, lo, Judas, one of the twelve, came, and with him a great multitude with swords and staves, from the chief priests and elders of the people. 48  Now he that betrayed him gave them a sign, saying, Whomsoever I shall kiss, that same is he: hold him fast. 49  And forthwith he came to Jesus, and said, Hail, master; and kissed him. 50  And Jesus said unto him, Friend, wherefore art thou come? Then came they, and laid hands on Jesus, and took him.

(Luke 21:16 KJV)  And ye shall be betrayed both by parents, and brethren, and kinsfolks, and friends; and some of you shall they cause to be put to death.

I hate being Luke warm or cold rather I like being committed and committed fellow sheep. I do not like to chat with unbelievers… not at all.. I do not talk to Christians who do not want also to talk about God, their walk, about others, brothers and sisters in the lord too. if I  cannot have true Christian fellowship then I stop talking to the person.. I have lost 1/12 of persons of of my devotional list for that reason.. it was a one sided relationship and to me this is not normal, unacceptable, just another Judas.  If we  don’t chat with unbelievers… how do they come to Christ if we don’t talk to them? Well you and I cannot bring one person to Christ.. not one. When God wants you to chat to them about the lord.. then he will send them to you or send you to them.. and guess what they tend to have great computer problems and need a computer expert like me or are really depressed and need a good depression counselor like me.. then I talk to them also about the Lord

For me general chatting also with unbelievers to me is a waste of time.. I hear God’s voice and he tells me with whom I can talk to and with whom I am not to talk to as well.

(Psa 1:1 KJV) Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.

I rightfully do not even want  to talk to my own twin brother if he does not want to also talk about the Lord.. My friendship with God is my best and highest need and priority.

I have also  already converted some unbelievers with chats, human logics, my better arguments.. and they became intellectual Christians who went the road of hell next.. God did not touch their hearts.. so I have learned my sad lesson.. if the heart is not ready to repent.. if the soil is bad.. I  am no longer  there. I go elsewhere to the better ground..  I also do now it’s better to live a godly life than any words that I can manage

You all that I write to do already have a shepherd’s gift.. you too  are looking for the lost sheep to help them… let God make it easier for you.. ask him to lead you to the lost right sheep and do always ask God to lead you in all things still.. me too Yep, it all boils down to that, really… my  devotions have made it pretty clear. God knows who will come to Him and He uses us as His ambassadors. God made that clear to us, he makes things simple for us.. we are not trying to reach the whole world.. but his one lost sheep that he God cares about to send us too.

(Rev 21:4 KJV) And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.

(Isa 54:1 KJV) Sing, O barren, thou that didst not bear; break forth into singing, and cry aloud, thou that didst not travail with child: for more are the children of the desolate than the children of the married wife, saith the LORD.

(Isa 62:4 KJV) Thou shalt no more be termed Forsaken; neither shall thy land any more be termed Desolate: but thou shalt be called Hephzibah, and thy land Beulah: for the LORD delighteth in thee, and thy land shall be married. 5 For as a young man marrieth a virgin, so shall thy sons marry thee: and as the bridegroom rejoiceth over the bride, so shall thy God rejoice over thee.

I agree. I’m glad I’m in Christ, there’s nothing better than Him. Nothing at all on the whole earth that is better than Him.. talking to Him…  nothing at all.

 I pray Heavenly Father in Jesus name that you will lead us in the right way, help us  to make all the right choices, to do thy  will,  and help us  to find all of your love daily as well…

Spending money on good friends is worth it, spending money on bad friends is a waste of resources.

(Luke 15:6 KJV)  And when he cometh home, he calleth together his friends and neighbours, saying unto them, Rejoice with me; for I have found my sheep which was lost.

ALSO ONE OF THE MOST COMMON, POPULAR TOPICS, SEARCHES ON THE INTERNET is can a Christian marry a non Christian or can a Christian next get divorced and remarried, and the simple answer is no! but wait do not stop reading yet.. if you are married, living to a demon, a control freak, a liar, a lazy good for nothing abusive person then please now do immediately get out of the marriage, do get an immediate  separation.. and this not the kind of advice you would expect from a preacher of peace  and love, but I am telling you all  this for our own good, and  you can thank me later.. and maybe next the still good for nothing bum, lousy spouse, he or  she will wake up as  to what she is really like and they may try to get help to change herself, himself.. but meanwhile don’t feel guilty about the peace you now have in your life.. By the way make sure first you are not the creepy, a good for nothing spouse yourself otherwise by your actions you will be doing your own spouse a great, great  service.  

 PS
 
-Actually  when I go from city to city I find some cities demonic and I can basically  have no fellowship with anyone.. and I next also have been to a great city    that had living Christian church too, a great community.. such is real life,. good bad bad places too.
 
-and many times I have lost good , great fellowship because 50 percent of all once loudly professing Christians will next consciously, deliberately fall from the lord into the world, the devil’s arms too.
 
– Still In one city I am praised and in another city place, I am hated, and the reaction is more reflective of the spiritual condition the people I am with and not of me
 
-Also when I prayed to God where was the place of most demons I next had expected an answer of nightclubs,  strip bars but God replied to me Hollywood and the TV, more demons come from there , Now TV with profanity or porno is putting one foot into hell..
– Sometimes when God wants us to move to another place he causes unrest for us in the present place… that is why you need to learn what his will is for you. The best way to do this is to say Jesus speak to me, I will now read your Word non stop  until you fully speak to me about my concerns..
 
– I have learned long time ago I cannot take hold of life, have control of it, keep it the way I had it in the past, keep it the way I want too.. I surrender it all to God.
 
– I can say with my whole heart that the worst possible things that have happened to me in my life, and there were many next had turned to be the biggest blessing in my life when I gave them all over to God..
 
– When I am troubled I merely sit and pray and pray and pray till I have or see the answer
 
– I have been married but next also also alone   Jesus and me is fully sufficient.. I need nothing else with Jesus being first in my life.
 
– If your relatives or friends, acquaintances are still non Christians than you cannot them now to any  Biblical standards.. no matter what he or she does they  will go to Hell now anyway.. so rightfully  give them up to God to deal with and to judge them..  and  often I pray God they are yours, deal with them the way you want next, now.. while I will go on with you.
 
May this help you too..

Do see also 

 
 
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