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July 17, 2008

The too common abusive silent treatment

Is the continual silent treatment, the clear attempt at ignoring you, even  for days or weeks a sign of a mental abuse?
 
 Absolutely yes! but not always.. We all have an equal  right to speak and to be heard now as well. We tend talk to those people we love, and reject, ignore, divorce  those people we hate. No question about it. This type of response is a common and immoral act by selfish, spoiled, self centered persons.  Anything that they now next  can do to upset you, to get you guessing about why too, or to make you think that you have done something  wrong, have   them is their basic approach, motive.       

The silent treatment  it can be damaging to the individual’s emotional health where the victim  report a sense of not belonging, loss of control, lower self-esteem and a feeling of unworthiness.  People with a low self esteem, ostracized females tend to work very hard to win back the good graces of others but most males still do not.  
 
The silent treatment is another  definite, abusive, calculated  form of power control over others and also a pre calculated  mind game that the abuser falsely plays on their victims . Spouses, Teachers, Neighbors, Pastors, bosses also wrongfully play this game. And the victim could be anyone, a spouse, boyfriend or a mother, neighbor. They do want an overly  submissive reaction from you, to bring you under their false bondage,  to firstly still only make themselves feel more powerful and better than you. Now basically isn’t that what they are looking for that big word POWER, Control, Domination. All friendship, relationship, submission too is reciprocal, and unenforced.
 
By openly ignoring you they try to falsely say that you are not important to them or any others or that to them you do not exist!! They falsely devalue you as a person and make you feel less as a person or at least  do try to  so  The abuser IS TRYING TO TO DEGRADE YOU TO FALSELY MAKE HIMSELF/HERSELF FEEL BETTER AND  is NOW ONLY PUSHING THEMSELVES RATHER. THEY ARE THE LOSERS NOW. Your recognition of the problem is 90 percent of the solution here too.
 
Persons who use this approach tend to escalate next to other forms of abuses also to get their way.  If confronted about this, they are exposed, they next often  tend to deny and deny their course of action, aim, to  lie. There here is basically nothing wrong with you, and remember that, you never really do not deserve this kind of treatment from anyone. It IS mental abuse! These bad people do need to find a better way for  their anger management. The adequate response next is to Tell them openly that you are aware they are upset at you, what they are doing you will give them next  5 minutes to talk about it and to get it out out of their system, and then you do not want to hear or see it again. You will go on with your life. Anyway this absue  only works only if you allow them to abuse you. Go on now, next  with your life even without them if you have too.
 

 (Psa 79:5 KJV)  How long, LORD? wilt thou be angry for ever? shall thy jealousy burn like fire?
 
(Psa 80:4 KJV)  O LORD God of hosts, how long wilt thou be angry against the prayer of thy people?
 
(Psa 85:5 KJV)  Wilt thou be angry with us for ever? wilt thou draw out thine anger to all generations?
 
(Jer 9:5 KJV)  And they will deceive every one his neighbour, and will not speak the truth: they have taught their tongue to speak lies, and weary themselves to commit iniquity. 6   Thine habitation is in the midst of deceit; through deceit they refuse to know me, saith the LORD.
 
(Jer 9:8 KJV)  Their tongue is as an arrow shot out; it speaketh deceit: one speaketh peaceably to his neighbour with his mouth, but in heart he layeth his wait.
 
(Jer 9:9 KJV)  Shall I not visit them for these things? saith the LORD: shall not my soul be avenged on such a nation as this?
  
(Eccl 7:9 KJV)  Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.
   
(Jonah 4:4 KJV)  Then said the LORD, Doest thou well to be angry?
 
(Eph 4:26 KJV)  Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
 
(Mal 2:16 KJV)  For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.
 
(Eph 4:25 KJV)  Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another.
 
(1 John 2:11 KJV)  But he that hateth his brother is in darkness, and walketh in darkness, and knoweth not whither he goeth, because that darkness hath blinded his eyes.      

(1 John 3:15 KJV)  Whosoever hateth his brother is a murderer: and ye know that no murderer hath eternal life abiding in him.

 Now about some of my reasons for my use of a valid   silent treatment..

 
LET ME BE CLEAR TO ALL  I REALLY  AM NOT INTERESTED TO READ OR TO DISCUSS ANYONE’S  OWN IMMORALITY, PERSONAL OPINIONS, UNSUBSTANTIATED FACTS, MERE DISTORTIONS, LIES, SLANDERS.
Further more those whom I love I talk to and I also chasten and rebuke. But if you want to lie to me,  about me, slander me, abuse me, I am much happier not to talk with you ever  again as per my right… and I will until you repent. simple as that now too
(1 Cor 5:1 KJV)  It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father’s wife.
(1 Cor 5:2 KJV)  And ye are puffed up, and have not rather mourned, that he that hath done this deed might be taken away from among you.
(1 Cor 5:3 KJV)  For I verily, as absent in body, but present in spirit, have judged already, as though I were present, concerning him that hath so done this deed,
(1 Cor 5:4 KJV)  In the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, when ye are gathered together, and my spirit, with the power of our Lord Jesus Christ,
(1 Cor 5:5 KJV)  To deliver such an one unto Satan for the destruction of the flesh, that the spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus.
(1 Cor 5:6 KJV)  Your glorying is not good. Know ye not that a little leaven leaveneth the whole lump?
(1 Cor 5:7 KJV)  Purge out therefore the old leaven, that ye may be a new lump, as ye are unleavened. For even Christ our passover is sacrificed for us:
(1 Cor 5:8 KJV)  Therefore let us keep the feast, not with old leaven, neither with the leaven of malice and wickedness; but with the unleavened bread of sincerity and truth.
(1 Cor 5:9 KJV)  I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators:(1 Cor 5:10 KJV)  Yet not altogether with the fornicators of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or with idolaters; for then must ye needs go out of the world.
(1 Cor 5:11 KJV)  But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.
(1 Cor 5:12 KJV)  For what have I to do to judge them also that are without? do not ye judge them that are within?

The Bible is clear what we are to do with a person who professes to be a Christian brother but is a drunkard. Have nothing to do with them.


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